Single Women Series: Let Him Honor You

This morning I was studying I Corinthians 5, focusing on the subject of judging and feeling like I might go a bit more in depth with my study there, but the Lord interrupted that train of thought and came full blast with this. I quickly wrote it down in my journal.

Dear Single Women Who Desire To Do Marriage God's Way:

A man who loves and honors God would not even ask you...push you...suggest that you have sex before you're married. And if you suggest it, he'd reject you. Why? Because he knows that it doesn't honor God, and as a man, knowing that he is in a position to potentially lead you, he has to show what integrity looks like. He has to show what fidelity to you, to the scriptures, and to His relationship with the Lord look like. A lust that causes him to answer to his flesh and ignore his spirit is DESTURCTION. And he knows this. He refuses to dishonor God, and he knows that dishonoring you in this way is certainly dishonoring God.

He knows the consequence is a conviction that will grab him so tightly that he'd rather die than live through it. He knows he'll have to answer to the Lord and that consequences will follow. Then, he has to answer to you. He'll know that he failed you. He'll know that those moments of pleasure will have potentially destroyed a lifetime of purpose in his union with you. He'll now struggle with assuredness in leading you because he failed to lead in that area. He'll battle within himself, wondering if he's even worthy of leading you at all.

A man who wants you as his wife...a man who desires to lead you and walk together with you in purpose, refuses to dishonor God by dishonoring you. He REFUSES! If sex outside of marriage is okay for the man you're with, RUN! He does not honor God; He does not honor you. If you marry him anyway, expect unfruitful compromise in his leadership that will probably be a result of him caving under pressure.